Kamis, 17 Juni 2010

Rage in men caused by women


Anyone can be angry once in a while. But if you feel anger boiling inside almost always, or anger explodes, often you can have an organic disease.

On the other hand, might have suffered some terrible injustice as a child.

One important category but largely unnoticed, such abuse is that children emotionally damaged, physically or sexually by women.

This abuse is not only common but is possible through the root of much subsequent abuse of women, men.

A boy abused by a woman feels similar to a child abused by a man.

Recently, it has become socially acceptable to talk to women about their abuse as children, who feel most men have no such authorization is given about the abuses suffered by children in the hands of women. These men are ashamed and angry.

Are you angry because society accepts that people can be bad, but is less acceptable to the feelings of victims of sex male 'pain, fear, inadequacy, guilt, shame, and above all the weakness and vulnerability.

A male victim suffocates these feelings of anger. In this way he keeps his manly image. But the costs are enormous.

A man is nothing of the deep wells of anger, at least to have difficult relations with women, at worst, it can maim and rapes.

A male victim of sexual abuse of women, shows the following behavior as an adult:

>> The distrust of women.
> Fear> intimacy.
>> No identity.
>> It feels a little 'guilty.
to accept> hard time>, congratulations.
>> Brake emotions.
>> Protect the perpetrator (s).
>> Sexual difficulties.
>> Addiction abuser consent.
>> Constantly apologizing.
>> Fear.
>> Anxious to take care of others.
>> No joy. (From Blanchard, 1987 * restated)

The feeling is bad and often breaks out of anger. Ronald sought professional help to change his vicious behavior towards his wife Helen.

Ronald came home after a disappointing day discontent (all day was disappointing) in architectural firm where he worked, and an hour drive to the suburbs.

It was not long before he would enter Helen. It was always an excuse for kicking. (Helen has not had the dinner ready, or she was on the phone, or a dress that she wore that hated ...). Ronald never uses his fists. Also the legs. He despaired of uncontrollable rage, because he believed that Helen, the best that ever happened to me?.

When Ronald spoke most of his life, his hostility to almost everyone has heard. He was jealous of his brothers, their decisions are made about women, hates his job, which he felt made, especially by female colleagues.

When Ronald spoke of his mother wailed. long stories, as you prefer one or another of his brothers, as he writhed in his presence, while visits to his house was always avoided contact with his jealous brothers. Ronald was convinced that her mother preferred one of his nephews to love? Although my son's first grandchild was.?

Hypnotherapy Treats Hurt and anger

Within the comfort of hypnosis Ronald was his misery with this unpleasant incidents involving in its infancy.

It 'been with what is called a hypnotherapist? Link to endanger achieved.? May be of a particular emotion, like sadness felt. As you continue to experience the sensation, the hypnotherapist will ask you earlier, if you remember felt the same way. Ronald confused mixture of bitterness, anger and sense of abandonment, quickly created a memory of his mother:

? Six years. Mom tells me I'm his favorite. She tells me to go to bed. It's hot here. I fall asleep, curled up beside her. I wake up. She's my leg that moves up and down these hairy body between her legs. You breathe funny. I'm afraid. [Sobbing]. She opens her eyes a bit 'and I say okay. My knee is wet. I'm trying to get away, but she held me, telling me to be a good boy, do it for Mom. Seems breathless. I'm afraid. Then he shakes and cries. I am even more afraid and I feel bad, like something really wrong. I ask Mom if she is well. He turns to me with a grin, he hugged me and said I'm her little man is ok. [Sobbing more] redness of the face.

? But everything is not good. I do not understand. Mom tells me that should be our secret special. Seems happy. And she loves me more. Then think again. And if you ask me, I let them use my legs to rub if you want. [Ronald launched later described other sexual activities of his mother]. I'm beginning to like him. If I am old enough to have an erection, mummy playing with my penis. I know, but at the same time it feels strange. This stuff was up to the age of eleven. I discovered at school, what should be the sex, and how bad it was, what mom and I had done. I felt bad.?

With psychotherapy, as he relaxed in hypnosis, Ronald made some progress towards a healthy lifestyle and control of his anger.

Unfortunately sabotaged the treatment of his wife. Ronald, how many victims had been sexually abused (unconsciously) sought a woman who had been abused as a child would continue.

Helen had made no secret of her vast sexual experience before the meeting, Ronald, yes, has been proud. But their knowledge about the world and the flesh on his innocence (sex with a woman his mother) repeats the pattern Ronald power had suffered as a boy.

When he saw that Helen Ronald learned to control his anger, to reduce its hostile attitude and relaxation, she countered. Helen married would despise, because Ronald unconscious () for a man to dominate her and she could. Its treatment threatened the delicate dance of the danger he created, angry.

Ronald quickly became a tear, the doll angry if Helen of its progress and recalled jeered again and again, that was a mother of the boy had been reduced.

A final shot bounced off Ronald therapy: Helen phoned the therapist discussing history of Ronald, and insisted that the therapist does not mention, call them to Ronald. The following week, Helen casually mentioned something that Ronald had told her therapist. Felt betrayed Ronald [] and never returned to therapy.

It can be very good because with hypnotherapy, when a friend or relative of your progress sabotaged. This is usually not as dramatic or as subtle behavior of Helen. The disturbance in the shape of the doubt. Your friend can doubt the effectiveness of hypnosis, and the point of hypnosis still many myths that burden our minds.

Once doubt is planted, ends hypnosis. Doubt and fear keep us relax employee. And relaxation is the way in which hypnotherapy.

Dennis, just like Ronald whims. Unlike Ronald, Dennis took the same game. She would tremble and shake, and sweat and fear that was going to faint. Dennis knew that his ambition to become a police officer would never have realized when he got through this game. As Ronald, had difficult relations with women.

Unlike Ronald, Dennis had slept with dozens of women. All its long-term relationships to one aspect of jealousy collapsed, his or theirs. Played no role. Dennis could not trust a woman.

Dennis deliberately sought a male therapist who sometimes used hypnosis. But Dennis was so afraid to go into hypnosis, who spent several sessions in traditional psychotherapy, before he had the courage to try hypnosis.

Mothers are not the only women who are abused Boys

Regarding Dennis knew that he had been molested by her mother. In fact he was not sure that was her biological mother. He was born into a large extended family penalty. He had lived in seven different homes since he was five years. All except one were properties of aunts, cousins or brothers. He stayed with his aunt called every time? Mother?. The woman on her birth certificate in no more or less pointed, maternal interest in Dennis as each of their sisters, who raised him.

Long before he could remember, Dennis has been abused: ignored abandoned, malnourished, beaten, locked up in a closet.

The therapist helped Dennis unravel the multitude of emotions swirling in it.

Finally, Dennis said he was willing to groped hypnosis. He was still fear, despite the therapist's statements about the safety of the procedure. But it was not hypnosis itself, that Dennis was afraid this was perhaps to be discovered.

In a way had to be very careful. But what has been revealed, terrible as it was released by Dennis last symbolic chains that are his family and their abuse convictions.

In hypnosis, Dennis returned to its crisis of the quake, a disgusting sexual behavior of one of his aunts, when she was about four years. What he had done for him and with him amounted to torture. It 'been so terrible details suppressed for years, though? I knew something had happened, I did not know what '.

Now that he knew what was the root of his anger and his attacks can let go of them was Dennis. He felt forgiveness for his aunt, because she knew that their terrible background. It 'was to know what Dennis had freed them from done to his loyalty criminal relatives (all in drug deals, prostitution, extortion, etc. were involved).

Now, Dennis felt completely comfortable with his decision to apply for local police academy.

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